Why Healing Takes Time (And Why It’s Worth It)

Imagine you have a messy room. At first, you can just close the door and ignore it, right? But over time, that mess doesn’t stay hidden. It starts spilling out into the hallway, making it harder to walk through. Eventually, you have no choice but to clean it up. That’s what healing is like—there’s only so long you can avoid the mess inside before it shows up in your life in ways you can’t ignore.

A lot of people think they can do one “big cleaning”—a therapy session, a healing session, or maybe even a good cry—and the job is done. They feel great for a little while and think, “I’m fixed!” But then life happens. Something triggers them, and suddenly, it’s like that messy room is back—and even messier than before.

What’s going on? It’s not that the first cleaning didn’t help; it’s that there’s always more to uncover. And that’s completely normal.

Why Healing Isn’t One-and-Done

When you start working on yourself, whether through therapy, energy work, or even just talking about your feelings, you’re not just dealing with today’s problems. You’re uncovering layers—things from your past, your family, and even habits or thoughts you didn’t realize were there.

Think of it like planting a garden. At first, you just see the weeds on the surface. Easy enough to pull out, right? But as you start digging, you find roots underneath—some are small, but others are deep and tangled. These roots might have been there for years, even passed down from your parents or grandparents. Pulling them out takes more effort, and sometimes, it feels like they just keep coming back.

It’s frustrating, but here’s the truth: every time you work on it, you’re making progress. You’re clearing more of the weeds so your garden can thrive.

Why Do People Stop Doing the Work?

It’s hard. Healing takes energy, and sometimes it feels like you’re going backward instead of forward. It’s also really normal to resist.

Resistance shows up as excuses:

• “I’m too busy.”

• “I’m fine now—I don’t need to keep going.”

• “I’ll deal with it later.”

But avoiding the work doesn’t make the problems go away. It’s like ignoring a leaky roof. At first, it’s just a drip, but if you leave it, the water starts to pool. Soon, the whole ceiling is caving in. That’s what happens when we ignore the parts of us that need healing—they don’t disappear; they get louder.

What Happens When You Avoid the Work?

When you don’t deal with your feelings, thoughts, or patterns, they show up in other ways:

• You might feel easily upset, like the tiniest thing makes you mad or sad.

• You might keep having the same arguments with your partner or friends.

• You might feel stuck, like you can’t move forward in life no matter how hard you try.

These feelings aren’t “bad.” They’re signs. They’re trying to tell you something isn’t right and needs your attention.

The Solution: Keep Showing Up for Yourself

Healing doesn’t happen all at once. It’s a process, and that’s okay. Here’s how to make it easier:

1. Start Small: You don’t have to fix everything at once. Take it one step at a time.

2. Be Patient: Remember, you didn’t collect all these feelings and habits in one day. It takes time to undo them.

3. Expect Resistance: It’s normal to want to give up or avoid the work. Notice those feelings, but don’t let them stop you.

4. Ask for Help: You don’t have to do this alone. Therapists, healers, or even trusted friends can help guide you.

5. Celebrate Progress: Every time you work on yourself, even a little bit, you’re growing stronger and closer to the life you want.

Why It’s Worth It

When you stick with the process, you start to notice big changes. You feel lighter, calmer, and more in control. The things that used to bother you don’t feel as overwhelming anymore.

Think back to that messy room. Imagine how good it feels to finally clean it up—to walk in and feel peaceful instead of stressed. That’s what healing does for your life.

It’s not always easy, but it’s worth it. You’re worth it. Keep showing up for yourself, even when it’s hard. You’re creating a life that feels clearer, calmer, and truer to who you are.

The work doesn’t have to be perfect—it just has to continue. Keep going. Your best life is waiting.